Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[CTinline-six]

If you can make them laugh, have decent hygiene, and aren't a macho douche the field is yours.

[M5Rick]

Women are going to be far more choosy on computer dating especially if the men outnumber them say three to one in the agency books and it's easy for men to feel dejected when they don't score immediately.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Move on to the next one!

Yep. Spot on. Funny story time. Was talking to a girl on whatever dating site. She was cute, not my type, I like dangerous and fun over religious goody two-shoes (those girls can't keep up with or handle me.....at all.) Anyway, after chatting and a few phone calls over about a week and a half; she tells me that she had been talking with me and another guy. She then tells me that she wants to pursue her interest in the other guy. This is where being funny bites me in the ass. I reply to her message with "How dare you! I have fallen head over heels in love with you over the last week even though I don't even know you." I instantly reply "Just kidding, thank you for your honesty and I enjoyed the conversation. Good luck with (whoever, I'm sure they aren't together now anyway) I hope everything works out." I go to hit send on the second message and she had already blocked me. Dammit. I feel like I have maybe mentioned this story before, if so forgive me. My memory is terrible these days. Uncle Wede I'm sure will have something to say about old age.....because really old ass people love to comment on how old the Freshmen of the geriatric community are.

Still funny to me that someone out there thinks I'm a psychopath, because they hit that f*ck you button all too fast.

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Either I'm too much of a douche, or there's a very obvious different in tactness for dating between generations. Both are equally plausible, I am a self aware douche.

I'd NEVER say anything like that, because I wouldn't get a reply from girls my age.

My most succesful tinder bio was something along the lines of "looking to trade my dad's money for a green card". I'll have to dig a bit because I haven't been on anything for the good part of a year now but not giving a single crap on what anyone thinks of you is EXTREMELY liberating.

Am I proud to be a douche? No, not really; it's a façade more than anything. But that seemed like the rules of the game so I just played along

In the past 8 years, I have dated fro 20 to 50-something year olds. The difference is VAST. Some very mature 20 year olds, some very immature older ladies and everything in between. The trick is this, you can't go after varying age groups at the same time. You can, but you won't be completely successful. As with anything that you want in life, you need to come up with the desired end result first, then reverse engineer your approach. If I was trying to get with younger girls, I had to change up my approach. The things my bio would say if I'm looking for an older lady would included: Stable, hardworking, career minded man, looking for someone to spend time with. A few pictures with button downs with a nice backdrop. Done. The matches soon follow. With younger girls, I was young and stupid once; it isn't hard to channel that age again. Problem is now, a lot of the younger generation now aren't stupid and reckless, they're intelligent SJW's, they're just idiots to try to carry a conversation with. Loong story short......YES, vast varying differences in demographics in age with ladies. What works for one can not be used in another, unless the maturity spectrum is as backwards as our society is.

Originally Posted by UncleWede

So, you know your market. dinoz I think is NOT of your generation, and probably not targeting the same demographics as you. That's why those old geezers Rudy and MK are trying to help him

SHOTS FIRED

Pre-emptive return fire already.

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

+1, pickle. I'm not any sort of player - definitely awkward and introverted - playing a bit daft definitely seemed to grease the wheels of conversation. Not stupidity, but just not serious and definitely not chat up lines.

Also we'll said Rudi

Thank you sir. I too am socially awkward, use it. Call attention to it and make a game of it in public. Chicks dig shit like this. I have this "gift" of being able to read people. Some dates that I had been on, in the past, where things seem to lull, I would explain this talent, then look around the venue and start describing people's relationships, who is in charge, who makes more money, etc. Then it would turn into what are they talking about? Then our conversation would turn to jokingly trying to decide what they are discussing and creating dialogue based off their facial expression and body language. Next thing you know, my date is doing it too. Seems childish, but that shit works. Entice a girls imagination and get her smiling, add alcohol and physical/eye contact - you're in for a good night.

[m630]

@dinonz, believe you are gen X so definitely leann into Rudi and MKs advice. While im genX as well, ive never had to do the online thing so cant help there, though i feel for anyone from our gen that has to deal with this new world order.

But, a few thoughts to highlight as others have pointed out, your confidence in yourself needs to shine to be successful- which by reading the bits and pieces seems to be the case in your professional life...so you need to focus the same energy that made you financially successful into your personal life. And that means everything you did to succeed, the prepartion to hone your skills, your approach to problem solving and on and on.
If you are not happy with some of the things about yourself that you can control -ie presentability, weight, tidiness and so on, that will be projected on anyone you are trying to approach so i do suggest you work that out regardless....just like knowing when you wear a suit to a power meeting so to speak. You dress for the part and in this case dressing is your entire presentability, you dont have to be “hot” to be cool.

Finally, great story on your dog- and very cute...But...reading that story makes me feel that you have a sure built in failure to any future relationship, so I recommend working that out asap. Say you get the right match online and make a real connection, you have a few dates and you finally get her to come to your home- to a dog that fiercly hates anyone but yourself! Boom! All that work destroyed in an instant- and that will absolutely happen if you take no action.
As it seems you have been successful, well hire a dog trainer, heck hire 2 if thats whats needed, but you cant have that as yet another obstacle and surely there is some trainer out there that can help you and the pup find some peace around other human beings...good luck

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by m630

@dinonz, believe you are gen X so definitely leann into Rudi and MKs advice.

Finally, great story on your dog- and very cute...But...reading that story makes me feel that you have a sure built in failure to any future relationship, so I recommend working that out asap. Say you get the right match online and make a real connection, you have a few dates and you finally get her to come to your home- to a dog that fiercly hates anyone but yourself! Boom! All that work destroyed in an instant- and that will absolutely happen if you take no action.
As it seems you have been successful, well hire a dog trainer, heck hire 2 if thats whats needed, but you cant have that as yet another obstacle and surely there is some trainer out there that can help you and the pup find some peace around other human beings...good luck

Yeah! I like this advice dinonz - I'm going to build on it. My advice is to contact Ceasar Milan and get on his show to get your dog sorted. Best part of this is that you get your face out there to thousands (I originally typed millions, but then figured probably not for Caesar Milan) and you can maybe work in a little self deprecating story in there, laugh about it, work on being confident on camera and boom - free advertising for the Dinonz. Make sure to mention you are looking for your soulmate and a good way to contact you.

Caesar Milan - that's your ticket right there. Gotta be tons of women watching that show. And I mean that in the metric sense as well.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Yeah! I like this advice dinonz - I'm going to build on it. My advice is to contact Ceasar Milan and get on his show to get your dog sorted. Best part of this is that you get your face out there to thousands (I originally typed millions, but then figured probably not for Caesar Milan) and you can maybe work in a little self deprecating story in there, laugh about it, work on being confident on camera and boom - free advertising for the Dinonz. Make sure to mention you are looking for your soulmate and a good way to contact you.

Caesar Milan - that's your ticket right there. Gotta be tons of women watching that show. And I mean that in the metric sense as well.

“As seen on Tv”

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Yeah! I like this advice dinonz - I'm going to build on it. My advice is to contact Ceasar Milan and get on his show to get your dog sorted. Best part of this is that you get your face out there to thousands (I originally typed millions, but then figured probably not for Caesar Milan) and you can maybe work in a little self deprecating story in there, laugh about it, work on being confident on camera and boom - free advertising for the Dinonz. Make sure to mention you are looking for your soulmate and a good way to contact you.

Caesar Milan - that's your ticket right there. Gotta be tons of women watching that show. And I mean that in the metric sense as well.

Shit.

This is why we are friends. This. Right. Here. Dammit. Your posts are starting to sound like mine back when I had a little bit of a personality.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six;27381709[B

]If you can make them laugh[/B], have decent hygiene, and aren't a macho douche the field is yours.

This.

I had the new one laughing so much she told me her stomach hurt for 2 days.

Laughter releases endorphins. Endorphines make one happy. They will associate you with being happy. Win.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Girls on date sites play you like a fiddle.



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Just the ones on the dating sites???

I'm starting to feel like Charlie Daniels should be called in here.

Wait......a fiddle? Aren't you from Canada? I thought the instrument was a violin, unless you're from the south eastern U.S., then it's fiddle.

[Tambohamilton]

The lady is semi-irish; fiddle. (also the Scottish term)

[Buug959]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Just the ones on the dating sites???

I'm starting to feel like Charlie Daniels should be called in here.

Wait......a fiddle? Aren't you from Canada? I thought the instrument was a violin, unless you're from the south eastern U.S., then it's fiddle.

Here's a good ol' boy from Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia on the fiddle. We call them Capers here and they're about as close to a redneck as you'll get in Canada.
Take a listen and let me know what you think.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by m630

@dinonz, believe you are gen X so definitely leann into Rudi and MKs advice. While im genX as well, ive never had to do the online thing so cant help there, though i feel for anyone from our gen that has to deal with this new world order.

I'm 51 so I think that makes me Gen X. Not a boomer I know that.

Originally Posted by m630

But, a few thoughts to highlight as others have pointed out, your confidence in yourself needs to shine to be successful- which by reading the bits and pieces seems to be the case in your professional life...so you need to focus the same energy that made you financially successful into your personal life. And that means everything you did to succeed, the prepartion to hone your skills, your approach to problem solving and on and on.
If you are not happy with some of the things about yourself that you can control -ie presentability, weight, tidiness and so on, that will be projected on anyone you are trying to approach so i do suggest you work that out regardless....just like knowing when you wear a suit to a power meeting so to speak. You dress for the part and in this case dressing is your entire presentability, you dont have to be “hot” to be cool.

Confidence is a major issue, but after having been knocked down most of the time for 51 years of my life, you become a little jaded. Ask someone who has been unemployed for 5 years and applying for 100s of jobs a month - you get to the point of "why bother".

Life can be a cruel thing. Most of my childhood I was teased, mocked or put down because of being smart. I remember one of the first parties I went to when I was about 16 that wasn't a "mums and kids birthday party" we were talking in groups out back where it was fairly dark. Having a nice chat with everyone there then someone asks something that triggers everyone to say their name as none of us really knew each other. As soon as I said my name - "Xxxx - you're that brainy bastard from the Boys College!!". I remember that because it's stuck with me for the last 35 years. Was like a kick in the nuts at the time, but that's my life. So I have very low expectations of people - meaning I expect them to stab me in the back or kick me when I'm down at some point. I can count true friends on one hand.

Originally Posted by m630

Finally, great story on your dog- and very cute...But...reading that story makes me feel that you have a sure built in failure to any future relationship, so I recommend working that out asap. Say you get the right match online and make a real connection, you have a few dates and you finally get her to come to your home- to a dog that fiercly hates anyone but yourself! Boom! All that work destroyed in an instant- and that will absolutely happen if you take no action.
As it seems you have been successful, well hire a dog trainer, heck hire 2 if thats whats needed, but you cant have that as yet another obstacle and surely there is some trainer out there that can help you and the pup find some peace around other human beings...good luck

Yeah - one of the reasons I didn't want him is his issues, but I won't give up on him. I have contacted local trainers who believe 100% he can be trained out of it based on how sweet and lovely he is the rest of the time - he's not inherently nasty, he just has a lot of issues (owner protective issue is one - he tries to protect me, despite being less than 1/30 of my size - bless him!). But they advised taking him to a vet for certain tests, because they said there are actually known conditions that can cause this. So yes, I have to get him to a vet, which is a very exciting prospect given he hates everyone and every dog - that reception area will be fun!

And when I say he hates everyone, he hates everyone only at first - except kids. He hates them forever. They're just mobile dogfood to him. Most of my friends I tell them to sit on the couch, he's going to be excitable and agitated and flit back and forth between us for a bit, but give him 10 minutes and he'll be sitting on your lap. Just don't try to pat him until I say so, and if you offer a hand for him to sniff fold your fingers in out of the way. He does and will bite if he feels threatened. So far he's gotten to know 3 or 4 workmates who end up here occasionally, my detailer, my builder, and even 2 of my friends - one hates dogs, one hates small dogs, and both said he's really quite cute and sweet when he's quiet and over his shit. So he's a mixed bag - and just one more thing I have to deal with. Along with building a house, trying to title 4 cars all with small problems on the paperwork, keeping my friends alive, keeping the company rolling along, and not going totally insane. Dating is just another task I don't think I need right now hence my lack of interest in making the effort.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Yeah! I like this advice dinonz - I'm going to build on it. My advice is to contact Ceasar Milan and get on his show to get your dog sorted. Best part of this is that you get your face out there to thousands (I originally typed millions, but then figured probably not for Caesar Milan) and you can maybe work in a little self deprecating story in there, laugh about it, work on being confident on camera and boom - free advertising for the Dinonz. Make sure to mention you are looking for your soulmate and a good way to contact you.

Caesar Milan - that's your ticket right there. Gotta be tons of women watching that show. And I mean that in the metric sense as well.

Whilst I love your idea, you're barking up the wrong tree there. I don't want to be on TV - I have the perfect face for radio.

Even work have tried to get me to record videos talking about the technology and things we do, but aside from not wanting to be on camera, I don't think I've done anything special. Any number of people could have done the same thing, I just happened to be the one in the hot seat who decided to try.

Also, I'm not sure I like him or his methods. I've seen his dogs - they appears to be miserable and subservient. I've seen them walking behind them like they were walking the Green Mile. I know dogs are pack animals and need an alpha (which might be another issue - perhaps Jazz thinks he's more of a man than I am?) but his dogs look so defeated. When my dog runs up and leaps on my lap with a cheeky grin on his face and looks so pleased with himself, I know he's happy.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I guess macho wasn't the right word. At any rate, I felt it was out of line

9 posts you quoted pretty much said "red flag" or "run"... and you say it was "out of line".

You're telling me I should follow everyone's advice. Where was your "hell yeah everyone - I'll kick him to the curb"?

I think you're going to see him again right?

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Any number of people could have done the same thing, I just happened to be the one in the hot seat who decided to try.

Spoken like someone with genuine intelligence! You think it's easy and anyone could do it, but I'd be willing to bet that it's not. And even if it is easy, you are the one that did it successfully amongst many others who didn't.

Have pride in what you've done!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by dinonz

9 posts you quoted pretty much said "red flag" or "run"... and you say it was "out of line".

You're telling me I should follow everyone's advice. Where was your "hell yeah everyone - I'll kick him to the curb"?

I think you're going to see him again right?

I thought the same. Prove us wrong Sara. Show us that women aren't really attracted to men just because they are assholes. This looks like a perfect opportunity for a toxic relationship. "Everything was great until he punched the waiter in the face, for not offering water, on our first date."

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by LemansE90335xi

Here's a good ol' boy from Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia on the fiddle. We call them Capers here and they're about as close to a redneck as you'll get in Canada.
Take a listen and let me know what you think.

I'll have to check it out later sir. I'm at work, but will check it later.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by dinonz

So yes, I have to get him to a vet, which is a very exciting prospect given he hates everyone and every dog - that reception area will be fun!

Our local animal hospital is still running COVID protocols. Everyone has to stay in their car, and they will come out with a leash and bring your pet inside. No waiting room, and you stay out in your car until they return your pet after they are done.

I don't know how this concept will work with your dog and strangers, but it might be worth checking with the vet about their opinion and options for skipping the waiting room.....

[Buug959]

Originally Posted by vreihen16

Our local animal hospital is still running COVID protocols. Everyone has to stay in their car, and they will come out with a leash and bring your pet inside. No waiting room, and you stay out in your car until they return your pet after they are done.

I don't know how this concept will work with your dog and strangers, but it might be worth checking with the vet about their opinion and options for skipping the waiting room.....

I imagine the vet will have pet carriers for unruly patients. Jazz doesn't look very big in the photos, he's just huge in his own mind.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by LemansE90335xi

I imagine the vet will have pet carriers for unruly patients. Jazz doesn't look very big in the photos, he's just huge in his own mind.

My DW's dog is 15 pounds, but he fights with 150 pounds of attitude! He has no fear of deer, bears, or big dogs. Our biggest fear is that the knucklehead will take on a transient bear if we tie him out in the yard for a few minutes.

On the bright side, he loves being around strangers, and is the biggest flirt around women. Like I've said, he's the perfect wing-dog for a single guy looking to meet women. That's probably why my DW won't let me walk him alone.....

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by vreihen16

My DW's dog is 15 pounds, but he fights with 150 pounds of attitude! He has no fear of deer, bears, or big dogs. Our biggest fear is that the knucklehead will take on a transient bear if we tie him out in the yard for a few minutes.

On the bright side, he loves being around strangers, and is the biggest flirt around women. Like I've said, he's the perfect wing-dog for a single guy looking to meet women. That's probably why my DW won't let me walk him alone.....

I don't know, by the sounds of your health, your DW is just one "a heart aflutter" away from a life changing life insurance payout. I think she'd be letting you walk the dog...

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

I don't know, by the sounds of your health, your DW is just one "a heart aflutter" away from a life changing life insurance payout. I think she'd be letting you walk the dog...

I think that she's more concerned about losing her dog to a new mommy.....