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Originally Posted by Marcoose
There's still a lot to learn. And like the saying goes, the first victim is often the truth.
Personally I don't like this thing of ringing the alarm at the first offence. People make mistakes and say things they regret. A one-strike and no-second-chance environment is horrible for everybody. Nobody grows. Everybody walks on egg shells and lives in fear. I prefer to establish a pattern, then you can explain to the offender the problem.
To be clear, rape, manhandling, hitting, physical threats, killing, etc, are absolutely inadmissible anywhere. But it is not what Horner is accused of.
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Of course, we have no clue what happened, so I reserve my final opinion until we hear more...
Saying something upfront, saying that you're uncomfortable with the communication, is absolutely the best way to treat the situation. Because yes, people make mistakes. But if that person never knows you're uncomfortable with the communications, how are you supposed to know you're offending them?
Hypothetical scenario: The issue at hand could be jokes shared in a group chat, occasionally sexist. The best thing to do is to either approach the person, HR, or someone else in the company and let them know that you don't find something appropriate. Horner gets a minor slap on the wrist and stops. Everyone moves along with life. Instead, someone decided to wait a "significant period of time" to say something. Now if this person raised the flag early and it continued, then no, he's got no ground to stand on. But if this is the first raising of the flag, there are plenty of circumstances where Horner should take corrective action and everyone should move along with life...