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[M_Six]

I've heard before that you start losing friends when you get into your late 50's and then it slows or stops until you get into your 70's or 80's. It seems that late 50's period is bad. My younger brother (mid-50's) died unexpectedly about 18 months ago and since then I've read about 4 or 5 others who I knew from high school who have died, including my ex-BIL and my longtime high school GF. My former GF's passing really bothered me because we kept in touch right up until a few years ago. I had no idea she was ill and now she's gone. I would have gone to her funeral had I known about it in time, but I've been living halfway across the country now for 15 years and sort of lost touch with old friends from back east.

No real point to make here other than a sense of loss about people who used to be a big part of my life.

[hau_nguyen91]

Ah....

[BMW F22]

Sorry to hear man...

[SakhirM4]

Losing friends is bad enough, but losing family is even worse. My wife and I have each lost both of our parents and it really is a life changer.

[kscarrol]

Sorry to hear this Mark. It really drives home the fact that we are getting older and that we only have one life to live. Make the most of it!

I went to my 35th high school reunion back in May and while I had not kept up with many of my classmates I was surprised to hear that six of them had passed away. Our graduating class was only 85 or so...

[vsix]

Hey Mark,
this is our life. What you experience now is what other generations experienced before you and what other generations will experience after you.

Iam 36 and allready saw people leaving this this station.
--> Station because we are all in the train of life, some leave it earlier and some later.
I know we will all get to a certain point of life, where all money, assets will be worth nothing, compared to all memories we had during our life!
Where we expressed, shared and recieved love. Where we were able to have our loved once family, friends around us.

Mark, it sound silly I know but just understand, it's all ment to be. It's all our joyful creators huge and for our limited understanding, untouchable plan.
All is good brother, stay focused and continue until god shows you your station.

[M3 Number 86]

Dont worry too much. Most people will have plenty of more life to go at 50.

[M_Six]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

Dont worry too much. Most people will have plenty of more life to go at 50.

That's my attitude. I'm planning on 30 or 40 more years. But it's hard thinking about people who are gone and wondering why.

[M3 Number 86]

Originally Posted by M_Six

That's my attitude. I'm planning on 30 or 40 more years. But it's hard thinking about people who are gone and wondering why.

I think as long as you're actively living you'll be good. Heck I'm meeting new friends who are nearing 50. I have a group of friends ranging from 20s-50s and all we do is talk about stupid car and track shit Lolol. Activities with friends helps. You may not see your old friends as you have families and not much time together but in the meantime make a new group of friends who do the same things as you. For me it's going to the track. When time permits I'll meet up with a good long time friend but those few hours make up for the long time we haven't seen each other.

[Sidewinderpb]

Sorry man, that's shitty. I have nothing to contribute, as I'm still in my 20's, but still - sorry to hear that. Keep on being awesome old timer. Really though - how many people your age are hip enough to frequent BMW forums? You're a cool cat in my book.

[F30lolz]

Sorry for your loss. I've dealt with losing my Grandmother and Mother in Law late last year and I lost a good friend on 10/10/10 (creepy). As for friends, I'll be pushing 40 in a couple of years and I only talk to maybe a handful of them.

[jtodd_fl]

Sorry man. Death sucks. Remember Jack Kerouac at a time like this:

Originally Posted by Kerouac

I hope it is true that a man can die and yet not only live in others but give them life, and not only life, but that great consciousness of life.

[Mike.]

Im sorry.

it already started for me at the ripe age of 25 --actually it started when I was 21 and just carried over

[FogCityM3]

Sorry to hear and hang in there. The frustrated thing about losing loved ones is that you know they have done nothing to deserve this--life is just random and sometimes very unfair. How can such a good person with a love of life and people be betrayed by life itself? It's extremely upsetting.

Nice to know that the boards do serve a purpose beyond talking (and sometimes quibbling) about cars. Glad you feel comfortable to vent (which serves a real purpose) and it's nice to see the M3 community lend its support.

[Samurai of 2day]

Originally Posted by M_Six

That's my attitude. I'm planning on 30 or 40 more years. But it's hard thinking about people who are gone and wondering why.

You have a good attitude. continue living and enjoying the time you have, since you know how fleeting life is.

I have lost quite a few friends in combat, and a significant number to suicide back in the states for various reasons, even though it's always chalked up to PTSD.

It's easier said than done, but the key is to remember them for who they were, and keep their memories alive in your heart and amongst friends and loved ones.

That's way, even though they have gone and passed, they are still with you, always.

[M_Six]

Thanks for the support, folks. I didn't mean to sound too morose. Doing pretty well right now, actually. I'm certainly not alone in losing friends and family, as you can see from these posts. It happens to us all.

Just a reminder, this section of the board is shared by all the boards. I'm here from the Z4 board (even though I don't own the Z4 any more). Maybe we need some sort of badge by the avatars showing which board you're posting from.

[tuco44]

Yes, we all lose friends and family as time goes by. One can dwell on it, or just carry on and live each day like it could be the last. Actuarial charts will show you that all the folks that pass on early in life help you to achieve a longer life (as statistically you are not among the "young passers").
I am 72 and picking up my new 340i either later today or next Tuesday. Go for it..!!!

[M_Six]

Originally Posted by tuco44

I am 72 and picking up my new 340i either later today or next Tuesday. Go for it..!!!

That reminds me of a discussion from a few years ago about why you see "old guys" driving around in Porsches or Vettes. It's because those "old guys" have finally reached a point in their lives where they have the financial freedom to spend that kind of money on a car instead of their kids.

[08njSTEP]

I noticed my dad lost a lot of friends at 50. There was a regular run of heart attacks. I will be 50 next year aand will not be having a heart attack, but who knows what other plans are in the works that I'm not yet aware of. Just do what makes you happy and be as loud as you can.

[Mr Tonka]

Originally Posted by M_Six

I've heard before that you start losing friends when you get into your late 50's and then it slows or stops until you get into your 70's or 80's. It seems that late 50's period is bad. My younger brother (mid-50's) died unexpectedly about 18 months ago and since then I've read about 4 or 5 others who I knew from high school who have died, including my ex-BIL and my longtime high school GF. My former GF's passing really bothered me because we kept in touch right up until a few years ago. I had no idea she was ill and now she's gone. I would have gone to her funeral had I known about it in time, but I've been living halfway across the country now for 15 years and sort of lost touch with old friends from back east.

No real point to make here other than a sense of loss about people who used to be a big part of my life.

Yep, was at a funeral yesterday for a 53 old work associate. I took my car in for service for the first time in a while and found out that my salesman who was 40 at the time had a major stroke while at work. He's severely affected, can't talk, walk, eat, etc... It's a slow road back, but depending on the severity, you can only come so far.

My recently lifestyle change of exercise and eating better has me feeling great. I'm beginning to buy into food additives being the reason for such drastic and sever illnesses affecting people in the US. I recently spoke with a GI specialist who told me he treats a hand full of people who live in Europe but stay Stateside for 3-4 months out of the year. He said that within a week or two of them being here they start having GI problems. He says they claim to be eating the same types of and quantity foods but still have problems. Within 2 weeks of getting back to Europe, problems subside.

Who knows, but I'm starting to eat less and less processed food and rather than paying attention to just nutritional info, i'm reading the ingredients. If i can't pronounce it or know what it is, i'm trying to go without it.

Either way, my parents are in their 70s, my mother has out lived her parents by 23 years already, but isn't in great health. It's unfortunate that she's only now making an effort to improve her health. I'm looking forward to this season of life, but not what comes along with it.

[M_Six]

That food additive things is no joke. I know Brits who lived here for a while and couldn't eat many grain based products here but can in the UK. And the reverse is also true. We have a good friend with gluten allergies who can eat bread in the UK with no symptoms. I don't trust GMOs. There just isn't enough long-term data available on them.

[RABAUKE]

I retired on my 55th birthday, 3 weeks ago. Spent 30+ years policing in Toronto, the last 9 years doing death investigations. I'm pretty healthy and have watched some peers get ill and leave us too early. I'm lucky, like I said pretty healthy (watching it more than ever now), and I have a good pension and have done ok financially......not in the supercar range but I have my toys and my family. I'm looking forward to enjoying life while I'm still young. I've seen too much tragedy, life is short my friends......live everyday well, live in the moment because you don't want to look back and say I wish I had of, or I should have.......peace.